A man has been backed online after refusing to remove his injured sister from their wedding party, despite his fiancée demanding it—and even threatened to call the wedding off.

The Reddit post, shared by user TA_Sib_Wedding, has received over 4,900 upvotes, as users rallied around the groom’s decision to prioritize family over appearances.

The 44-year-old man explained that his sister Luna, 34, was hospitalized after a cycling accident just a week before his wedding to fiancée “Amber,” 35. Luna suffered multiple injuries: a fractured wrist, facial cuts and grazes, and a broken nose, leaving her with severe bruising.

“She was a bit of a mess covered in blood, and when she smiled she was missing a tooth at the front,” he wrote. “Turns out she’d come off her bike and smashed her face on the pavement.”

When he informed Amber of Luna’s injuries, he said she asked whether any of them would affect the wedding. He responded that Luna “might have to carry her flowers differently and might find having makeup applied uncomfortable as she had broken her nose.”

Amber’s response stunned him: “Amber told me that I needed to tell Luna she couldn’t be a bridesmaid anymore.” He refused, saying he didn’t want Luna “to be the only sibling excluded, especially over a broken nose.”

Amber insisted that her wedding photos would be marred by Luna’s appearance.

“Amber said that she didn’t want wedding pictures like Luna’s, she wanted pictures she could be proud of,” the groom shared. He noted that in Luna’s own wedding photos, she had a busted lip from being punched at work s in private security, while her husband had a cut on his forehead from a bachelor party mishap.

“In those pictures you don’t see the injuries straight away, you see how happy they are,” he wrote.

The conflict escalated when Amber left to stay with her sister, who went on to message him saying Amber was considering cancelling the wedding because he was “not onboard with her vision for our wedding” and that he was being an a****** for not prioritizing his soon-to-be wife and her feelings.

The sister added that “Luna knew what the consequences of getting hurt so close to the wedding would be.”

‘Flawless’ Photos Aren’t Realistic

Newsweek spoke with Zoe Burke, Editor of Hitched and a wedding expert, who said the groom’s story resonates with wider issues in modern wedding culture.

“Weddings are deeply emotional events, but they are about people ultimately, not just pictures,” Burke said. “It’s totally natural for couples to want their photos to look flawless, but that’s not a reflection of real life.”

“It’s so important to think about why we choose the people we have in our wedding parties—it’s because you love, trust and value them and want them by your side,” she added. “To demote someone because of an injury or a physical imperfection is really unfair, and could have a long-lasting impact on your relationship.

“If a couple feels that appearance is more important than the person behind it, it’s worth stepping back and asking whether the day is really reflecting what marriage is about: love, commitment, and unconditional support—and I say this as someone who has broken their nose multiple times!”

Reddit Reacts

Amid speculation in the Reddit thread about Luna’s frequent injuries, the groom clarified in an edit that she works in private security and has had past injuries from work and sports. He also recalled a moment from the previous Christmas when Luna was wearing a medical boot after dropping a kettlebell on her foot.

The Reddit community overwhelmingly supported his decision, with many questioning Amber’s fixation on appearances.

The top comment has 11,000 upvotes alone, it said: “Sorry, but I’m considering canceling the wedding because your vision of how we treat family does not align with mine.”

“Notice she asked if her injuries would affect the wedding before asking about her future [sister-in-law’s] wellbeing [red flag emoji],” pointed out another user.

A third commenter said: “It’s just so superficial. Imagine caring more about appearance than the well-being of family.”

Newsweek reached out to u/TA_Sib_Wedding for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.

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